A dear friend, who’s three years my junior, learned yesterday that the breast cancer she’s fought fearlessly for a dozen years will soon have the last laugh. She sent a typically wry email around to announce this news to her “Best Beloveds.”

In it, she muses about how best to use her remaining time. “Does one keep moisturizing,” she wonders, “even if future wrinkles may no longer be an issue? Which books should I read: old favorites or nifty sounding new ones?”

I’m devastated.


  1. How utterly awful for her. And for you and all the other people who love her. And how generous of her to give us all these questions to ponder when we have the luxury of not really having to answer them with death knocking at our door on urgent business.
    Love to you xoxo

  2. happy new year my dear arlene. all i can do is send you a big hug and pray that your friend does not suffer too much. love, shayma

  3. Thank you all for your lovely kind comments. Mary’s pretty extraordinary. If you’d like to know more about her, she’s been keeping a blog more or less since she was diagnosed (1997). It’s at cancerchick.com. xo

  4. Awful, awful, awful. I’m so sorry, Arlene. She sounds extraordinary. Sending much love. Just wish I could send something more practical and useful. xo

  5. Oh what awfully sad news. I read what you wrote and then sat here thinking – gosh what would do and honestly I had no answers. All my love to you and your dear friend. xx

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